Feature by Haleigh Shipley, A Millennial Twenty Something:
Sorry not sorry. Someone else’s opinion of me is none of my business. I’ve learned that the only opinion that matters, and that has the ability to dictate my life, is my own. I am my biggest cheerleader and advocate.
I am the only person on this Earth who can truly understand why I do the things I do, say the things I say, or want the things I want.
And for these reasons, I am unapologetic and confident in myself.
If others do not understand you, your experiences, or your knowledge, how can they have some expert (and unwanted) opinion of your life and your choices? They can’t.
They literally cannot. It is an uninformed opinion. Now, I’m not trying to come across overly sassy, I’m just being brutally honest.This is how I learned to sleep at night and deal with my anxiety when it comes to other people: instead of laying in bed at night thinking of that one thing I said that one day ten years ago to that one person – and being mortified.
This is why I started making decisions for myself, because they made me happy, instead of making decisions I thought others would approve of.
As most teenagers do, I spent nearly all of my teen years trying to fit in and be the version of a person I thought would please my peers. I said and did things I didn’t truly believe in, I didn’t take my integrity seriously, and I apologized so often. Apologies for things that, first off, don’t even require an apology, but especially not an apology from me! Be unapologetic in your authentic self!
Who cares what anyone else thinks?
You shouldn’t. And you have nothing to apologize for. I’m sorry, but I think Backstreet Boys are and always will be superior to Nsync. Why do I need to apologize for that? I don’t (plus, it’s just a fact that BSB beats Nsync any day).
What others think does not affect your life.
Just because someone (and trust me there are plenty of someones) doesn’t like me or agree with me doesn’t mean something fundamental in my life is going to change, or that all of a sudden everything I do have is not worthy. I’m still going to go home at night to a loving boyfriend, 8 legs of animals, and a bottle of red wine, be just fine and curl up on the couch to watch The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel.
I am confident in myself because I can look myself in the mirror and be happy with the decisions I’ve made, the lessons I’ve learned, and the path I’m on. All things ultimately chosen by me.
You can be your own confidence! This goes for everyone – feel empowered to be unapologetically you!
Embrace your confidence.
Take note: confidence isn’t all about how you look – it’s a personality trait. Confident people are influential and mesmerizing to be around. You want to be like them, spend time with them, and hope that some of their confidence rubs off on you. But, guess what? You control your own confidence. By not caring so much about what others think! By not always apologizing for your opinions or your actions!
It all comes full circle. Be confident and unapologetic. You’ll be just fine.
Until next time, xoxo, H.
Haleigh Shipley, or H as many call her, is a 25 year old Colorado native who strives to improve how we view ourselves as human beings. As someone who has struggled with mental health problems, she is an open book on the tough stuff and likes to share her experiences through her blog; A Millennial Twenty Something. Haleigh enjoys writing about mental health, relationships and empowerment, as well as general lifestyle advice – while helping others relate to what we don’t always realise are very common experiences. Follow along on her blog and on Instagram @haleighshipley: for weekly inspiration and motivation, and to help you love yourself, just as you are!